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What Love is

2010-12-24T20:58:00.000-08:00

* ---* "Needed someomne is a temporary madness"
It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision.

You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is.

Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are.

Love itself is what is left over

Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.

Love is the roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two."

Top 10 Inspirational Motivational Sayings

2010-10-31T22:04:00.000-07:00

I have learned that success is not just have a lot of money,it is a balance of life.Some people was born in a rich family ,yes It would make them life better,but things aren't always what you seem,some people or some family are extremely wealthy but there are not happy .

Sometimes,the real happiness is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles overcome while trying to succeed.

Below listed my collection of top 10 inspirational and motivational sayings and thoughts from some of the most famous people of all time.

Top 10 Inspirational Motivational Quotes ,Sayings And Thoughts For Meaningful Life.

10.""I praise loudly. I blame softly." (Catherine the Great, 1729-1796.)

9."It is amazing what you can accomplish if you do not care who gets the credit." (President Harry S Truman)

8."In the midst of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer." (Albert Camus, 1913 - 1960, French author & philosopher)

7."If you're not part of the solution you must be part of the problem." (Eldridge Cleaver 1935-98, founder member and information minister of the Black Panthers, American political activist group, in a speech in 1968)

6."A dream is just a dream. A goal is a dream with a plan and a deadline." (Harvey Mackay - thanks Brad Hanson)

5."What does not kill us makes us stronger." (attributed to Friedrich Nietzsche based on his words: "Out of life's school of war: What does not destroy me, makes me stronger." from The Twilight of the Idols, 1899)

4."Most people never run far enough on their first wind to find out they've got a second. Give your dreams all you've got and you'll be amazed at the energy that comes out of you." (William James, American Philosopher, 1842-1910)

3."Whatever you can do - or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it." (Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, German writer, 1749-1832 )

2.""The most important thing in life is not to capitalize on your successes - any fool can do that. The really important thing is to profit from your mistakes." (William Bolitho, from 'Twelve against the Gods')

1."The world is divided into people who do things, and people who get the credit. Try, if you can, to belong to the first class. There's far less competition." (Dwight Morrow, 1935.)

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Learn What you love to learn

2010-10-30T23:41:00.000-07:00

If you are a collage student ,and having difficulty in mesmerize ,your trying so hard to learn certain subject ,you had forced your self study all days long even you don't like the subject.Whats wrong ?still can't get good results,why?

If you don't like it ,why doing it? Your soul knows its own blueprint. The things that interest you are meant to be in your life. You're good at them and you're always eager to learn more, improve your skills. That's your soul saying: "This way, dear one."

The things that don't interest you are meant for other people. Why try to be good at them? You know, if you keep that up you might end up working in a field that doesn't interest you at all for 50 years. Well done! ... but why would you do that to yourself?

Stick with what you love, the things that motivate you, and hold on to your vision of yourself as smart. Because you are... way too smart to try to be all things to all people and lose your enthusiasm for life.

People who think positive Healthy Mind

2010-08-15T13:12:00.000-07:00

Heaven on earth?
People who think positive live happier,if you think there is a place call "heaven" or " hell" on earth,let me tell the truth : YOU CAN'T FIND ANYWHERE ON THE SURFACE OF PLANET EARTH call heaven or hell .( scientist has proven),(you can use Google earth to search it if you still not believe..),did you know 99% happiness ,and unhappiness comes from inside yourself,inside of Where ?You ask?You Brain...there is nothing to do with Scientists, Philosophers & Theologians...don't ask them,or nobody else you are not happy..

It isn't 100% your fault but you are taking 100% responsibility
Whom do you blame the most when things goes wrong?okay,It isn't 100% your fault ,you brain felt not happy,pessimist,sad,most of the time it'd because your heart "unhealthy"..but you are taking 100% responsibility for you life and things you have done.Below provide some fact on how the harmonious functioning model explains our emotions quote from csulb.edu the root of emotion.

The brain needs optimal stimulation and learning to be healthy. The brain has special needs of its own. Like the cells in our muscles, our brain cells need stimulation and exercise. Just as the body has an optimal temperature for optimal functioning, each part of the brain has an optimal level of stimulation for optimal functioning.

Keep "Mind" Fits
In other words, each cognitive part of the brain has an optimal level of learning or processing input that keeps it maximally healthy and happy.If it gets too hot--overwhelmed with too much input it cannot adequately process, it gets overstimulated and produces negative over arousal emotions such as anxiety or anger.

If it gets too cold--too little input for its processing ability, then it produces negative under arousal emotions such as boredom or depression. To be happy we must keep an optimal level of matching between our inputs and our abilities to process them. Too little or too much matching is the brain mechanism at the root of unhappy emotions.

Unhappy Emotions Killed..
The harmonious functioning model provides a unifying explanation of all emotions. Being in the zone of harmonious functioning produces varying states of happiness--such as enthusiasm, love, joy, or peace. Being above the zone produces over arousal emotions such as anger, anxiety, guilt, or fear. Being below the zone produces under arousal emotions such as apathy, boredom, grief, or depression.

The Zone of Happiness
The zone of happiness ranges from peace and tranquility to exhilaration and ecstasy. When we are fresh, at peak energy levels, and have a highly challenging task such as a big tennis match or speech to give, being in the zone of harmonious functioning is at a much higher level of stimulation and arousal than being in the zone is at the end of the day.

At the end of the day laying on the couch with my head in Sherry's lap, a fire in the fireplace, and watching a good mystery on TV is being in the zone. Being in the zone covers a range of stimulation and arousal levels. It also depends upon a variety of conditions--such as my expectations, energy level, and the external situation.

If you managed to turn your brain from unhealthy brain to hearty heart,you whole life will be different.Choose To Be Happy.Be optimist.KEEP YOUR MIND hearty.

Believe in yourself

2010-07-03T16:43:00.000-07:00

To live your life as a happy person and get the best from your life, there are many things you have to learn,for nstant: be optimist about bad tings happened around you,and another essential element for you to live a fullest life is you have to believe in yourself.

You have to believe in your abilities and you have to have "Can Do" attitude. However, there are certain time when times get tough and things get complicated, it could be quite difficult to sustain positive attitude and confidence in yourself.

For such time, motivational life quotes can do wonders to you. Not only they give you courage and confidence to tackle tough time but also boost your motivation level to help you focus towards the object you desire.

In this page, I’m sharing with you my favorite 3 motivational quotes about life. These are the quotes which I recall whenever I feel blue. These quotes have always helped me to turn myself on positively and so for you.

"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life. It goes on."

Quote:Robert Frost

This is the truth ,even after million years..Life goes on weather you enjoy it or not. It’s up to you to live a life of mediocrity or enjoy every moment to fullest.

"The universe is change; our life is what our thoughts make it."

Quote:Marcus Aurelius Antoninus

We are what we think we are. The life we are living today is the result of our thoughts and beliefs we have acquired from our childhood environment. But we are not little child anymore and so we need not to believe on those beliefs anymore. Once you have changed your thoughts pattern and limiting beliefs, your whole life will be changed.

"Never look back unless you are planning to go that way."

Quote:~ Henry D. Thoreau

In everyone’s life, there are some past bad events or memories. But that was past which has gone. We shouldn’t let that affect our present.

It just doesn’t make any sense to remember past bad memories or events unless you want them to repeat again. Instead, we should take lessons from our past events to rise to whole new level of awareness and enlightenment.

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6 Ways To Make Me Your Best Friend

2010-06-21T15:03:00.000-07:00

Do you have a lot of friends?You MIGHT have a lot of friends but none of them are good friends to you..Do you a good friend to others people?

Below are six essential points that most people never do it. Have you made these mistake when dealing with your friends?How To win people heart...

Become genuinely interested in other people.
Smile..
Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
Be a good listener.Encourage others to talk about themselves.
Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

Learn these Six simple ways can make people like to be your friend,just that simple.so just smile...smile from your heart and the world smiles with you,,.It work.

Inspired By Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People (1936)"

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Shit! True Love Never Break Up

2010-05-28T23:38:00.000-07:00

When you stuck/bored,WHAT make you move on?If you feel that there's nothing left to hold your interest or "Life is full of shit"…lots of it, there are many times seem anything just happened to piss you off...

Well,cool down,you might forget something, there is such a thing as "true love". It's there, it's indescribable and few are blessed with it."

When the whole world gone,yeah it doesn't that matter and it just isn't "that shit" that drive u crazy, if you have true love you can face anything with smile and let's not forget the most important part: This is where love of all ...you might have the entire family sitting at home waiting for you at home .You might have a good friend that listen to you whenever you down,appreciate it.

REMEMBER LIFE'S GREAT IF WE HAVE TRUE LOVE..e.g.Family's love,Friend,s love...

p/s:Friends are forever

p/s2:There are 10 kind of attitude that will destroy a relationship.You better beware stay away from it.

Why not Suicide?

2010-05-01T15:08:00.000-07:00

Life is short and there are so many problems ,hates ,you are no way out,you've decided to Kill Yourself.But Hey!Do You really think Suicide is your way out?

..........suicided.....!

Well ,you have you own opinion and your view about your life,no one else knows better then you are,how frustrated your situation is but there are some things you should know before you heading to the road of no return..Have you ever think the results of suicide? Will it 100% "save"?or will it 100% make you "happy"?

I not going to tell you not to kill yourself ,i know you not gonna pay much more attention and I am not going to tell you the success rate of Suicide either..But may be some tips,i am not trying to scare you up.

You know what? Suicide is usually not successful! And how about the one who hate you?They gonna smile at you out loud when knowing you choice to shoot yourself .....Ha!

Let's kill them all

Okay,you think you know a way to guarantee get killed.That's awesome.And you might have some evil idea.How about kill someone before you kill yourself? Imagine those Mercy of the demon.

You think you are brave
Is that what you think? You know What? That can be the most stupid thing you ever did in your life.You kill nobody but yourself.You are death at this movement,you already die because of the evil and pain in your mind,right now.

The one that you (plan to)kill doesn't feel any pain as they don't have the change to feel the pain (they been killed) And suicide in reality not gonna set you FREE.Trust me..How the fuck you feel free if you already death??

There are many ways to end up life suicide? Ask Them:

Ask the 25 year old who tried to electrocute himself suicide. He lived. But both his arms are gone.

What about jumping? Ask John. He used to be intelligent, with an engaging sense of humor. That was before he leaped from a building. Now, he's brain-damaged and will always need care. He staggers and has seizures. He lives in a fog. But, worst of all, he KNOWS he used to be normal.

What about pills? Ask the 12 year old with extensive liver damage from an overdose. Have you ever seen anyone die of liver damage? You turn yellow. It's a hard way to go.

What about a gun? Ask the 24 year old who shot himself in the head. Now he drags one leg, has a useless arm and has no vision or hearing on one side. He lived through his "foolproof" suicide. You might, too.

Who will clean your blood off the carpet or scrape your brains from the ceiling? Commercial cleaning companies may refuse that job --- but SOMEONE has to do it.

Who will have to cut you down from where you hanged yourself or identify your bloated body after you've drowned?

The carefully worded "loving" suicide note is no help. Those who loved you will NEVER completely recover. They'll feel regret and an unending pain.

Suicide is contagious
Look around at your family. Look closely at the 4 year old playing with his cars on the rug. Kill yourself tonight, and he may do it 10 years from now.

You do have other choices
There are people who can help you through this crisis. Call a hot line. Call a friend. Call your minister or priest. Call a doctor or hospital.or Better yet ,call "yourself", the "clean version" of you,when you were a child, Who was the oldest relative you remember as a child? What do you remember?DO YOU REMEMBER WHEN YOU WERE A CHILD?AND IT WAS THE HOLIDAYS...Why you have to do this today?

There's hope out there.suicide is not the last option you have. Maybe you'll find it in the mail tomorrow. Or in a phone call this weekend. But what you're seeking could be just a minute, a day or a month away.Don't end it that way.

By:Elvin Blog

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Things That destroy A relationship

2010-04-27T00:19:00.000-07:00

Why you just can't find true love and love for a little bit longer?

Like many others who fall in love FAST?Beginning is always sweet but when time goes by ,the feeling just become weaker and weaker..Whats wrong?

You are not happy.Most of the time,did you aware that you are destroying the relationships and when the love gone,you don't even know what you have done wrong.Below listed top 10 Ten things that can destroy relationships.

What are the things that cause people destroy their own relationships.And How To Avoid It?

1. You love someone is to win

Do you know one of the most damaging thing that you can do with a relationships? It is the attitude of competitive urge. I don’t really mean competition in the sense that you can’t stand to lose at football match, I mean the attitude that the relationship itself is a kind of game that you’re tying to win.

People in competitive relationships are always looking for an advantage, the upper hand, some edge they can hold over their partner’s head. If you feel that there are things you can’t tell your partner because she or he will use it against you, you’re in a competitive relationship — but not for long.

2. You don’t trust

What ever you do,who ever you iterate with..Believing Is Just The Beginning Gold Locket:.There are two aspects of trust that are important in relationships. One is trusting your partner enough to know that s/he won’t cheat on you or otherwise hurt you — and to know that he or she trusts you that way, too. The other is trusting them enough to know they won’t leave you or stop loving you no matter what you do or say. The second that level of trust is gone, whether because one of you takes advantage of that trust and does something horrible or because one of you thinks the other has, the relationship is over — even if it takes 10 more years for you to break up.

3. You don’t talk

Too many people hold their tongues about things that bother or upset them in their relationship, either because they don’t want to hurt their partner, or because they’re trying to win. (See #1 above; example: “If you don’t know why I’m mad, I’m certainly not going to tell you!”) While this might make things easier in the short term, in the long run it gradually erodes the foundation of the relationship away. Little issues grow into bigger and bigger problems — problems that don’t get fixed because your partner is blissfully unaware, or worse, is totally aware of them but thinks they don’t really bother you. Ultimately, keeping quiet reflects a lack of trust — and, as I said that’s the death of a relationship.

4. You don’t listen

Did you listen to what i said? You better paid attention when you love one talking to you,put down those MP3,stop thinking something else and listen,even just for 10 seconds...Listening — really listening — is hard. It’s normal to defend ourselves when we hear something that seems like criticism, so instead of really hearing someone out, we interrupt to explain or excuse ourselves, or we turn inward to prepare our defense. But your partner deserves your active listening. S/he even deserves you to hear the between-the-lines content of daily chit-chat, to suss out his/her dreams and desires when even s/he doesn’t even know exactly what they are. If you can’t listen that way, at least to the person you love, there’s a problem.Big problem..You don't know how it hurt because you NEVER listened until last minute.And that could the ended.

5. You spend like a single person

The money you earned is not the money you 100% own..When you’re single, you can buy whatever you like, whenever you dream for, with little regard for the future. It’s not necessarily wise, but you’re the only one who has to pay the consequences. When you are with someone in a long-term relationship, that is no longer a possibility. Your partner — and your children, if there are or will be any — will have to bear the brunt of your spending, so you’d better get in the habit of taking care of household necessities first and then, if there’s anything left over, of discussing with your partner the best way to use it.

This is an increasing problem these days, because more and more people are opting to keep their finances separate, even when they’re married. There’s nothing wrong with that kind of arrangement in and of itself, but it demands more communication and involvement between the partners, not less. If you’re spending money as if it was your money and nobody else has a right to tell you what to do with it, your relationship is doomed.

6. You’re afraid of breaking up

You might not aware of this.Nobody in a truly happy partnership is afraid of breaking up. If you are, that’s a big warning sign that something’s wrong. But often, what’s wrong is the fear itself. Not only does it betray a lack of trust, but it shows a lack of self-confidence and self-esteem — you’re afraid that there’s no good reason for someone should keep loving with you, and that sooner or later your partner will “wise up” and take off. So you pour more energy into keeping up the appearance of a happy relationships than you do into building yourself up as a person.(That's so important to have yourself,love yourself before someone love you,i will discuss it later) Quite frankly, this isn’t going to be very satisfying for you, and it also isn’t going to be very satisfying for your partner either.

7. You’re dependent

There’s always a thin red line between companionship and support and dependency. If you depend on your partner — that is, if you absolutely cannot live without her or him — you’ve crossed that line. The pressure is now on your partner to fill whatever’s missing in you — a pressure s/he will learn to resent. If you expect your partner to bring everything while you bring nothing to your relationship — and I’m talking finances as well as emotional support, here — you’re in trouble. (Note: I’m not saying that you need to contribute equally to household finances — what I’m saying is that if you’re not contributing to the household budget, and you’re not contributing anywhere else, things are out of whack and that’s never good.)

8. You expect Happiness

Nothing is compulsory and there is impossible to ask for 100% happy. A sign of a bad relationship is that one or both partners expect either to make the other happy or for their partner to make them happy. This is not only an unrealistic expectation to lay on yourself or on them — nobody can “make” you happy, except you — but it’s an unrealistic expectation to lay on your relationship. Relationships aren’t only about being happy, and there’s lots of times when you won’t and even shouldn’t be. Being able to rely on someone even when you’re upset, miserable, depressed, or grieving is a lot more important than being happy all the time. If you expect your partner to make you happy — or worse, you’re frustrated because you aren’t able to make your partner happy — your relationship isn’t going to fare well when it hits a rough spot.

9. You never fight

Don't be afraid of fight.A good argument is essential, every now and then. In part, arguing helps bring out the little stuff before it becomes major, but also, fighting expresses anger which is a perfectly normal part of a human’s emotional make-up. Your relationship has to be strong enough to hold all of who you are, not just the sunny stuff.

One reason couples don’t fight is that they fear conflict — which reflects a lack of trust and a foundation of fear. That’s bad. Another reason couples avoid arguments is that they’ve learned that anger is unreasonable and unproductive. They’ve learned that arguing represents a breakdown rather than a natural part of a relationship’s development.

While an argument isn’t pleasant, it can help both partners to articulate issues they may not have even known they had — and help keep them from simmering until you cross a line you can’t come back from.

10. You expect it to be easy/you expect it to be hard

There are two deeply problematic attitudes about relationships . One is that a relationship should be easy, that if you really love each other and are meant to be together, it will work itself out. The other is that anything worth having is going to be hard — and that therefore if it’s hard, it must be worth having.

The outcome of both views is that you don’t work at your relationship. You don’t work because it’s supposed to be easy and therefore not need any work, or you don’t work because it’s supposed to be hard and it wouldn’t be hard if you worked at it. In both cases, you quickly get burnt out — either because the problems you’re ignoring really don’t go away just because you think they should. or because the problems you’re cultivating are a constant drag on your energy. A relationship that’s too much work might be suffering from one of the attitudes above, but a relationship that doesn’t seem to need any work isn’t any better.

Your choices

There isn’t any one answer to any of the problems above. There are choices though: you can either seek out an answer, something that addresses why you are hurting your relationship, or you can resign yourself to the failure of your relationship (and maybe the next one, and the next one, and…). Failure doesn’t always mean you break up — many people aren’t that lucky.

But people can live quite unhappily in failed relationships for years and even decades because they’re afraid they won’t find anything better, or worse, they’re afraid they deserve it.

Don’t you be one of them ?if you suffer from any of these problems, figure out how to fix it, whether that means therapy, a solo mountain retreat, or just talking to your partner and committing yourselves to change..No others knowing yourself better that yourself..

After all ,don't cry out loud when your relationships ended,there must be reasons,it not always your false,make some new friends ,it is the best way to end your loneliness and ensure happiness.

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Ways To Kill Yourself suicide

2010-02-09T20:36:00.000-08:00

If you decided to Kill Yourself,you might have think and study on difference ways and methods on How to Get Yourself Killed.

I don't know how to tell you the best way to not to suicide,the only thing i can tell is suicide is no good,it's not an effective way to solve the problems.

Anyway,there are many ways to end up you life but before you doing something that make you regret check out my post on Why not Kill Yourself suicide.

=The Secret of Winning Edge

2009-09-05T20:20:00.000-07:00

=The Secret of Winning Edge

It's a very famous little inspirational quote,and most likely you've heard the quote before

"Success is a journey, not a destination".

Although it's becoming worn out these days, I still believe that the statement is true. If you're go through and understand these words,you must be working your way to achieve your goal.
If you're internet marketer,you might be struggling in building your reputation in your online business or you're looking for fresh new ways to add a few hundred dollars to your monthly or weekly income.That's your goal.

But before you achieve the success you desire, there are always some evil ideas and misconceptions that you have to vomit out of your system.

"Success is What we Achieve"

Success is not a destination, as the quote says. "Success is What you Achieve".The truth is it not entirely true. In fact ,success is not about earning a $1 million dollar check in one day, or buying a new house. Don't get me wrong, though. These things are RESULTS of success. It's impossible to succeed and not have physical, material, and outward manifestations. But to say that the house and the million dollar check is the definition of success, then I'd say that's entirely wrong.

Here's my definition of success . Most of you may or may not agree with me and that's fine. We all have a different outlook and perspective on how to get the things we dream for in life, and let me share you mine:

"Success is a state of mind that urges us to achieve certain things on a daily basis".

That's it. It's not rhetoric. Most people valuing success from the point of view of RESULTS (oh, he's got a nice car,big house, he must be successful).

What they don't realize is that the person who got a nice car and experiencing a high level of income in life is already succeeding on a daily basis, even before he has reached his income goals. I've found out that really successful people have simply learned to do things a little bit differently every single day. They have the so called "winning edge" over their peers.

The Winning Edge
I believe that if you can just do one activity, one technique, one idea, one concept or strategy that NO ONE ELSE IS DOING, then if you do it on a regular basis (everyday), you can achieve greater heights in your career . To succeed on a daily basis, and consequently in the long term, do this:

1. Focus on what you'll do today. Now. Remember, there's no tomorrow without now. Your future will only be a result of what you're doing today. Tell yourself, "What is the most productive thing I can do at this very moment?"

2. Do things slightly differently than the others on a daily basis. If everyone else is saying the same words, displaying the same web pages, putting up the same old cliche's, then it's time to be different and stand out.

3. Identify the actions that bring you success and focus your daily efforts on doing MORE of those stuff.

4. Sit in front of your long term goals. Then determine what needs to be done to achieve it. It might sound simple but most networkers don't do it. For example, if your goal is $1,000 per month, how many leads, customers, and monthly subscribers do you need to have? To get those customers, how much traffic do you need to acquire? To get that traffic, how much is the budget you need to invest in advertising? How many articles do you need to write? How much time does it take to crank up that amount of content? Average people don't take time to know this vital information. Don't be average.

5. Do all you can to make TODAY the best day in your career. (Think Michael Jordan)

Don't sit back and wait for success to happen tomorrow. Success begins today. It's an ongoing process, not a final destination.

quote:Verniel Cutar*

**Verniel Cutar is an established leader in the MLM industry. He now leads a team of 1,045 active downline members.

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Mercy of the demon.

2009-02-06T10:35:00.000-08:00

I Love to heard the cry of demon.....
The fear on their face.....
They beg for mercy....
I spare none...
I will kill them all....
I am the demon slayer...

If you think you can just kill the"demon"without hurting yourself,you are damn wrong..The demon is inside you.yes,deep inside your heard,like a poison.

However,it's not the end of the world.You do have an option to solve the problem;the "super natural power"way..

Yeah,you can perform a "super natural power" ,to kill them all without harm.The "super natural power" is to "let it go"..Damn! You Have To Drop It.Don't die with the demon.It not worth it

Say goodbye to your "anger".Just Drop it !!I know it might not easy as we say but it really just that"simple".Drop it..

Little thing that makes a BIG difference.
Did You Know If you can control more than 30% of your brain against the emotion. (HATE)You can control the world ? If you can control your brain from the evil things.It's a little thing that makes a big difference.

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Bible quote :love and peace for live

2009-02-04T12:51:00.002-08:00

Collection of most inspired Bible quote about Love and Happiness.

Let us love, not in word or speech, but in truth and action.

Bible quote- 1 John 3:18

"Be truly glad. There is wonderful joy ahead!"

Bible quote- I Peter 1:6

"The truth shall make you free"

Bible quote- John 8:32

"Be content with what you have, for God has said, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you." So say with confidence, "The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid."

Bible quote- Hebrews 13:5,6

"The fruit of the spirit is love, joy and peace."

Bible quote- Galatians 5:22

"Stand still and consider the wondrous works of God."

Bible quote- Job 37:14

"There is no fear in love; for perfect love casteth out fear."

Bible quote- I John 4:18

"Love is patient, love is kind,Love does not insist on its own way.Love bears all things, believes all things,Hopes all things, endures all things.Love never fails."

Bible quote- I Corinthians 13:4-8

10 steps to help you through a case of the stupids

2008-11-24T22:58:00.001-08:00

Have you ever done things you regret?

Each and every one of us has had a moment where we've said or done something dumb. It's called getting a case of the stupids.

After we've apologized and kicked ourselves and apologized some more and searched for a decent rock to hide under, most of us are left trying to figure out how to recover and resume being the highly intelligent, sophisticated, and above-average people we know ourselves to be.

It can be a difficult process, which is why our department has created a list of 5 steps to help you through a case of the stupids.

Admit your stupidity. To deny it is to deny a part of you. Any hope for recovery requires that you accept all
of you, even the dumb parts.
Embrace it. Once you acknowledge it, don't shun it; hold it close and cherish it. You never know, this
might be a once in a lifetime opportunity to experience what it's truly like to be like everybody else.
Wallow in it. Throw yourself a pity party, but make it quick. A streamer, a couple of balloons, and a freshly
baked humble pie (with whipped cream) should do the trick. There's no need to invite anyone else.
Learn from it. Use the party as a chance to improve yourself. Any case of the stupids that doesn't kill
you, can only make you smarter. It might not prevent future stupidity, but take comfort in the fact that it will likely be a
different variety of stupid.
Let it go. Once you've learned your lesson, there's no reason to let it linger. Wish your stupidity
well and send it on its way. Holding onto it won't help anybody.

Along with these 5 steps, here a few more tips to keep in mind...

Stay away from others. Until you've finished the fifth step, you won't be pleasant to be around. Also, being
around people not suffering from a case of the stupids will only make you feel worse, which could prevent you from recovering.
Don't rush the steps. Depending on the severity of the case, the steps could take a matter of minutes or a matter
of weeks. If you rush, you run the risk of a relapse.
Don't try to fix it. What has been done can't be undone (at least until time machines are invented). In most
cases, fixing only makes things worse.
Know you're not alone. There are roughly six billion other people doing or saying something dumb (or maybe dumber)
at this very moment.
Know you're special. If the previous tip doesn't help, then take comfort in the fact that you are suffering
from your own special strain of stupid and that makes you unique.

With these steps and tips, you have everything you need to get through your case of the stupids. If you follow them,you should be well on your way to recovery in no time.

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What to Do When You Get a Case of the Stupids,(A Note About Stupidity from the Department of Tongues in Cheeks)
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What are you waiting for?

2008-10-25T22:00:00.001-07:00

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another.

Then we're frustrated that the kids aren't old enough and we'll be more content when they are. After that,

we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We'll certainly be happy when they're out of that stage.

We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together,

when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation,

when we retire......

The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?

Your life will always be filled with challenges. It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.

One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D. Souza. He said,

"For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life."

This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.

So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time with...and remember that time waits for no one.

So, stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter, until you're off welfare, until the first or fifteenth, until your song comes on, until you've had a drink, until you've sobered up, until you die, until you're born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.

Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

The author of "Happiness is a Journey."

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Because there is no better time than right now to be happy.

You have earned one more tomorrow

2008-10-25T20:04:00.001-07:00

Did you waste the day?

At Days End Is anybody happier because you passed his way?

Does anyone remember that you spoke to him today?

The day is almost over, and its toiling time is through; Is there anyone with a kindly word of you?

Can you say tonight, in parting with the day that's slipping fast, That you helped a single brother of the many that you passed?

Is a single heart rejoicing over what you did or said; Does the man whose hopes were fading, now with courage look ahead?

Did you waste the day, or lose it? Was it well or sorely spent?

Did you leave a trail of kindness, or a scar of discontent?

As you close your eyes in slumber, do you think God will say,

"You have earned one more tomorrow by the work you did today"

Also check out: The Secret of Winning Edge

The people who make a difference in your life

2008-10-18T21:46:00.001-07:00

Just go through the questions, answer the questions in your heart .You don't have to actually answer all the questions.Just try ....You'll get the point.

1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.

2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.

3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America.

4. Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.
5. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winner for best actor and actress.
6. Name the last decade's worth of World Series winners.

How did you do?

The point is, none of us remember the headliners of yesterday. These are no second-rate achievers. They are the best in their fields. But the applause dies. Awards tarnish. Achievements are forgotten. Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.

Here's another quiz. How about this one:
1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school.
2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.
4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special.
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with .
Easier?
The lesson: The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials, the most money, or the most awards. They are the ones that care.

"Don't worry about the world coming to an end today. It's already tomorrow in Australia" .
The philosophy of Charles Schultz, the creator of the 'Peanuts' comic strip.

Who you're to the world

2008-09-26T15:19:00.000-07:00

"To the world you may be one person,but to one person you may be the world. "

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Falling in love with your smile

2008-09-26T14:47:00.000-07:00

"Never frown,even when you are sad,because you never know who is falling in love with your smile. "

The "hard way".

2008-09-13T13:26:00.000-07:00

You fail the "easy way". You succeed the "hard way".

Reward yourself

2008-07-08T09:42:00.001-07:00

Not just the end goal that we celebrating .Each every little milestones you complete along the way are successes in themselves.

The Changing Nature of Friendship.

2008-07-06T22:21:00.001-07:00

As we have grown and changed so have our ideas on friendship......

1. In kindergarten your idea of a good friend was the person who let you have the red crayon when all that was left was the ugly black one.

2. In first grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went to the new classroom with you and held your hand as you walked through walked through the scary corridor.

3. In second grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you stand up to the class bully.

4. In third grade your idea of a good friend was the person who shared their lunch with you when you forgot yours on the bus.

5. In fourth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who was willing to switch square dancing partners in gym so you wouldn't have to be stuck do-si-do-ing with Nasty Jelly or Smelly Susie.

6. In fifth grade your idea of a friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you.

7. In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to Susie or Jerry, your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed.

8. In seventh grade your idea of a friend was the person who let you copy the social studies homework from the night before that you had forgotten about.

9. In eighth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball cards so that your room would be a "high schooler's" room, but didn't laugh at you when you finished and broke out into tears.

10. In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went with you to that "cool" party thrown by a senior so you wouldn't wind up being the only freshman there.

11. In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would have someone to sit with at lunch.

12. In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who gave you rides in their new car, convinced your parents that you shouldn't be grounded, consoled you when you broke up with Nick or Susan, and found you a date to the prom.

13. In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pick out a college, assured you that you would get into that college, helped you deal with your parents who were having a hard time adjusting to the idea of letting you go...

14. At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you.

15. The summer after twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you clean up the bottles from that party, helped you sneak out of the house when you just couldn't deal with your parents, assured you that now that you and Jerry or you and Susie were back together, you could make through anything, helped you pack up for college and just silently hugged you as you looked through blurry eyes at 18 years of memories you were leaving behind, and finally on those last days of childhood, went out of their way to come over and send you off with a hug, a lot of memories, reassurance that you would make it in college as well as you had these past 18 years, and most importantly sent you off to college knowing you were loved.

16. Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who gives you the better of the two choices, hold your hand when you're scared, helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you, thinks of you at times when you are not there, reminds you of what you have forgotten, helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer, stays with you so that you have confidence, goes out of their way to make time for you, helps you clear up your mistakes, helps you deal with pressure from others, smiles for you when they are sad, helps you become a better person, and most importantly loves you!

Do you miss your good friend?

The Changing Nature of Friendship

Edited by:elvin.

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The world owes you nothing

2008-06-27T22:19:00.001-07:00

"Don't go around saying the world owes you a living; the world owes you nothing; it was here first"

Have You Reach "That Moment"?

2008-06-17T13:46:00.001-07:00

KEEP Going.Don't give up half way..........

Wining Is about not giving up until we reach "That Moment" .

- The moment that put an end to your frustrations.
- The moment that saw your stress start to fade away.
- The moment when all self doubt began to vanish.
- The moment that enabled you to gain laser focus.
- The moment that saw all barriers to success begin to crumble.
- The moment that made you excited about waking and facing each moment.
- The moment that would lead to financial security for you and your family.
- The moment when you knew you would never again have to "Go it Alone".
- The moment when you knew you had finally found the "REAL" thing.
- The moment that would cause you to ascend to the ranks of those whom you admire.
- The moment that would ultimately allow you to live your life on your terms.

We can either chose to seize opportunity and get in the game, or sit it out
on the sideline and wonder, "What if?". Either way, your life's course will
be permanently altered for better or worse.

Have you await for "the moment"?

The moment that changed everything.

There are no defining guides in all our lives that how to we success . It come from our desire to success.

-elvin-@ my ELVIN's inspirational blog

The civilization

2008-05-23T14:56:00.001-07:00

We step upon the threshold, facing a brighter dawn of civilization.

~New York Times, January 1, 1900

The benefit which is derived from exchanging one commodity for
another, arises in all cases, from the commodity received, not the commodity given.

~James Mill, 1821

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A Forever Friend

2008-04-28T13:28:00.000-07:00

What's forever friend?

A Forever Friend =

"A friend walk in when the rest of the world walks out."
Sometimes in life, You find a special friend; Someone who changes your life just by being part of it.
Someone who makes you laugh until you can't stop;
Someone who makes you believe that there really is good in the world.
Someone who convinces you that there really is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it

When you're down, and the world seems dark and empty,
Your forever friend walk you through the hard times,the sad times,and the confused times.
And,If you turn and walk away, Your forever friend follows, If you lose you way, Your forever friend guides you and cheers you on.
Your forever friend hug you up and tells you that everything is going to be okay.
If you find such a friend, You feel happy and complete, Because you need not worry,
Your have a forever friend for life, And forever has no end. ..

By:http://myelvin.blogspot.com/ MY Everlasting Inspirations quote

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Life is never stagnation

2008-04-17T22:45:00.000-07:00

`Life is never stagnation~

"Life is never stagnation. It is a constant
movement, unrhythmic movement, as well
as constant change. Things live by moving
and gain strength as they go."

~Bruce Lee

Getting Ready to Get Ready

2008-04-13T10:28:00.000-07:00

** "Getting Ready to Get Ready" **

Have you ever asked someone how they are doing or progressing on a project, task or business and heard them reply "I'm getting ready!" ?

Then when you ask them again after a month or two and they again say "I'm getting ready!"

Then when you ask them again after a month or two and they again say "I'm getting ready!"

(No, that repetition was not a mistake.)

Many people have heard of the term "analysis paralysis" – meaning that someone is stuck in an analysis phase and can't get to the point of making a decision or moving forward.

Just like analysis paralysis, some people can get caught in the "getting ready to get ready" phase. They just can't seem to stop "preparing" to get going and actually GET GOING!

There are a lot of things we can do that will help us . But unless we actually willing to do, take an action, we are still in the "getting ready to get ready" mode.

Sometimes the best preparation is actually doing it now. Sure you might make a mistake or two but you will be actively learning from your mistakes and improving them rather than wondering, supposing and endlessly planning.

And the successes you have, even while you are still figuring out what you are doing will count toward your benefit. Nobody expects you to be perfect and most appreciate seeing the "human" side of people.

Plus, showing people that THEY don't have to be perfect, just as you are not perfect, helps them feel more confident that they can do it too. After all if a bumbler like you can do it – ANYONE CAN!

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Lead your life the right way

2008-04-12T22:02:00.000-07:00

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Ideal person

2008-03-18T21:42:00.001-07:00

You no need to be pro on everything.

Every quality has extremes at both ends.
"The ideal person is never the best at anything."

Vy:MyElvin.

There are only two ways to brightness your world

2008-03-18T21:19:00.000-07:00

Life is hard .How to make your world brightness?
More Smile,More Joy,You Need More Happiness In Your Life?Don't You?

Basically "There are only two ways of bringing brightness into your world; either change your attitude or open the closed doors of your brain"

This holds true in all our lives; we all deserve a good & peaceful life, full of happiness. Our struggle to lead a better life and to grow everyday, both professionally and personally is highly appreciable; time and again we face situations which are highly abstruse, stress building and killer of our enthusiasm and high morale.

There are many ways of handling such situations; but effective handling and analyzing is imperative to counteract, come to a conclusion which basically satisfies our conscience; the mirror of truth, further enhancing our self confidence and high esteem.

This will happen only when our attitude towards life is changed, our thinking process is towards a side which is extremely positive drawing our attention to things which we actually ignore, widening our focus to observe, understand and act accordingly.

As one of the interviewee answered to the query of the interviewer, the glass is half filled with water, rather half empty, this attitude which is challenging, positive and appreciable.

Each and every one of us are capable, skilled, knowledgeable but manier times we work emotionally rather thinking practically. If anybody can bring change in your life, then it's you, you, and only you. Remember, nothing happens by chance, you have to take action.

Whenever you achieve or lose something important, ask your self…… why? How? Analyze? You will and you only can overcome the obstacles and tastes the success, which is sweet like honey, bringing lots of accolades ……… your way.

Thanks To:Srivathshan Nagarajan.
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20 essential points toward positive thinking.

2008-03-18T21:05:00.000-07:00

These 20 points are the essential point towards positive thinking.20 Ways Of Training The Mind On Positive Thinking....

1. Start the day with cheers and smiles.

Your whole day depends on how you greet the morning. Therefore, as long as you welcome it with energy and high spirits, everything will go okay. You don't want the rest of the day to get ruined, do you? Come on, smile! It doesn't cost anything but is worth everything.

2. Ask for guidance.

Only God knows what we will be having on the day ahead of us. He will surely appreciate a few minutes of praying and asking for guidance from Him. Also, have faith on Him that He is more than willing to grant our requests as long as it is for our own good. With God as our guide, we don't have any reason not to say and believe in the thought that I can do this. I can make it through this day. Nothing is impossible. After all, God is with me.

3. Plan the day ahead.

To avoid mistakes that will cause negative output on your daily activities that will later on become negative thoughts, it is better to plan your work first; after which, work your plan. Make sure today's goals are clearly defined and absorbed by your mind. This can be done even before you get out of bed each day, just so immediate addressing issues as they arise can be avoided.

4. Keep your mind focused on important things.

Set goals and priorities for what you think and do. Visualize practicing your actions. Develop a strategy for dealing with problems. Concentrate on things that need to be taken seriously, but at the same time, take time to relax and enjoy. This way, favorable results may take place.

5. Be detached from the outcome.

They say that life is like a Ferris Wheel; sometimes, you're on the top, and sometimes at the bottom. This means that there will be times in our lives where some things would not turn out according to what we want them to be. Don't be annoyed if you don't get what you desire. However, do your best in everything you do. Only, don't get too attached on the probable results that may only cause disappointments and upsets.

6. Try new things and challenges.

See learning and changes as opportunities. There's nothing wrong in changing attitudes and routines as long as they are for the good and improvement of who you are and what you do. Doing new things may include considering more options for a project, meeting new people from different places, asking lots of questions. Through this, the flow of thinking is directed to improvement and negative thoughts will be easily eradicated.

7. Balance your desires.

We live in a place of opposites and duality – gain and loss, pleasure and pain, light and dark, male and female, love and hate. This is how the cycle of life goes. We can never have all the good things in life at the same time. In love, there will always be someone who gets hurt. In wealth, there will always be people who will not be fortunate enough. Measure and moderation is the primary key.

8. Be realistic.

Make sure that what you want is something possible. Hoping for something to happen which would never really materialize in real life will only bring you disappointment. For instance, you wish to lose weight. Therefore, you have to set a goal and act on appropriate measures within a period of time to achieve what you wish. Hey, No one can get slimmer overnight.

9. Keep track of your mental and physical health.

This way, you will know how far you can keep believing.
Know yourself. There is no other person in the world who can tell who you really are. Know your passions, favorites, and principles. Spend some quality time by yourself – reading, listening to music, day dreaming, and the likes. If you know yourself completely, you will be aware of how far can you go physically, mentally, and emotionally.

10. Love yourself.

Before you expect for other people to love and adore you, it is always you who needs to love yourself first. Make a positive commitment to yourself, to learning, work, family, friends, nature, and other worthwhile causes. Praise yourself as much as you praise others once in a while. When you start feeling confident about yourself, positive thoughts will naturally flow to your mind.

11. Laugh.

Enjoy. Have fun. Looking at the brighter side of life starts with entertainment and pleasure. Laughter is the best medicine, so they say. Whether your illness is physical or emotional, a few laughs and giggles can help you throw away heavy baggage such as anxiety, disappointment, or nervousness.

12. Keep a list of your goals and actions.

Familiarize yourself with things you want to accomplish and with the ways you must undertake to complete them. By the time you are certain of what you want to do and carry out in your life, a stronger mind and will power will exist within you.

13. Associate with positive people.

In every classroom, work place, or simply anywhere you go where there are groups of people, look for optimistic ones. There are lots of them, I'm sure. Associate with them, hang-out, discuss matters. They can help you build self-confidence and self-esteem.

14. Make it a habit to ask questions.

This is not equal to dumbness and ignorance; rather, it is associated with seeking more information and understanding matters clearly. With more knowledge, there is also more power.

15. Be open.

We have to accept the fact that we don't know everything. And that we are continuously learning in every place we go, with every people we meet as everyday passes. We should not close our minds to new ideas and information that comes our way. Our mind is so spacious that it is impossible to fill it up completely. Thus, we should accept worthy things that may help us become better and brighter persons.

16. Have trust in other people.

Although it may seem difficult and risky to give trust to just any people, when you believe in them or confident on what they are doing for you, doubts and negative judgments on them will be unnecessary. Also, it will bring harmonious relationships between you and your colleagues.

17. Forgive and forget.

Mistakes and failures are the root causes of negative thinking. If we somehow learn to let go of all the pain, agony, and fear we try to keep inside our hearts and minds, then there will be nothing more to block our clear thoughts from being expressed. Forgive yourself for committing mistakes and forget these mistakes.

18. Learn from experiences.

Learning inside the classroom is different from learning outside it. In school, one learns the lesson first before taking an exam; while in real life, one takes the test first before learning the lesson. This test in the real life is our experiences. If we failed in that test, i.e. the experience is not so good, we study the situation and learn the lesson. From here, we can avoid committing the same mistake twice.

19. Count your blessings.

Focus on what you have rather than what you don't have. Absence of our desires will only bring discontentment and disappointment that will only waste our time. Instead, be thankful and appreciative with all the blessings we receive.

20. Kiss your worries goodbye.

At the end of everyday, before going to sleep, there is no need to keep bad experiences and unhappy moments that had happened in the day within you. Let them go, throw them out of the window and kiss them goodbye. Dream sweetly. As a new day unfolds, new hope arises. Keep believing. Always have faith.

Do you believe that you can attain anything your heart desires? I'm telling you, you can!

Rene Graeber uses and teaches will power and mind control for more than 10 years. Visit his website and learn how to unleash your full potential of your mind - just visit www.will-power-mind-control.com

The temptations.

2008-02-16T23:41:00.000-08:00

"Don't worry about avoiding temptation. As we grow older, it will avoid us."

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Don't waste a day...

2008-02-03T09:26:00.000-08:00

Tomorrow is the most important thing in life. Comes into us at midnight very clean.

It's perfect when it arrives and it puts itself in our hands. It hopes we've learned something from yesterday.

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Do something that never regret.

2008-01-11T23:14:00.000-08:00

"To abandon a comfortable lifestyle that isn’t deeply fulfilling is to abandon nothing.

From:Don't Die With Your Music Still In You ~Steve Pavlina

There’s nothing of real substance there to protect. An income, a car, a house, or a lifestyle are not worth protecting if the cost of such protection is your own fulfillment and happiness. People who achieve some of the external trappings of success without internal fulfillment are only living an illusion when they tell themselves they have something of value to protect.

In most cases the feeling that there’s something to protect is just an excuse used to avoid facing the real fear — that maybe all this stuff isn’t really worth anything compared to what’s being lost… that maybe I should be living more boldly and not be so concerned about what happens to all my stuff.“
That’s all just stuff. It doesn’t matter. It doesn’t have any real value. I’d gladly give it all up and live in a shack if that was the price I’d have to pay to live my mission. I “1” my life to have had more value than just acquiring stuff and living comfortably. I may die rich, or I may die broke. But I won’t die with my music still in me.

After all, why are we here? Is it to acquire stuff, live a comfortable lifestyle, make our families as comfortable as possible, and then die? Whether there’s an afterlife or not, one thing is clear — we can’t take any of that stuff with us. Our comfortable lifestyle has no power to endure.

And here’s the worst part. While you’re working so hard to acquire and protect all that stuff, you could die unexpectedly. You might die today. You might die tomorrow. Maybe you won’t die for another 70 years. Maybe your consciousness will be transferred into an android body a few decades from now, but you could still be destroyed in an accident, even if you make a backup of yourself. At least in the present, you’re still vulnerable. Death happens to people every day. 150,000+ people died from the quake and tsunami in Southeast Asia. How many of them knew at the beginning of December 2004 that they only had a few weeks left to live? And look what happened to all the stuff those people acquired — destroyed. Fisherman or tourist — it doesn’t matter. We all end up the same way.

So what is the point of a life dedicated to the acquisition and protection of stuff? All of your money and possessions can be taken away from you by forces outside your control. No matter how many asset protection techniques you apply, you can never guarantee full security of your stuff. It’s perpetually vulnerable. There can be no true security then in a life based on the acquisition and protection of stuff.

So what have you got to lose? What are you truly risking if you go after your dreams? If your current lifestyle is unfulfilling, then you’re starting broke, no matter how much money you have. It doesn’t matter if you start with $0 or $1 million. You have nothing to lose either way. Money and material assets are just resources to use while you’re here — you can’t take them with you. You’re only a temporary steward of the money and possessions that pass through your life. So when you risk money, you don’t risk anything of any enduring value. Earn money, lose money, invest money. But don’t make material objects more important than your own fulfillment and happiness.

If you’re sitting behind a desk working at a job you hate in order to protect your current lifestyle, you are protecting nothing. Isn’t there a part of you, deep inside, that “1”s to just walk away from all of that junk and start really living? Can you feel how empty and hollow your days are, how devoid of meaning? Have you forgotten what it’s like to really live a day that fulfills you deeply as a human being? Look around your home at all your stuff. Recognize that in the long run, it will all eventually end up as dust. None of it will endure. It’s all temporary. Your house will eventually crumble. Your car will wind up in a junkyard. You cannot permanently keep any of this stuff. Eventually you’re going to lose it all. Or it will lose you.

So what kind of life is that — one that’s dedicated to the guarding of dust? Is that what you “1” your life to be about? If you feel there’s any purpose to your existence as a human being, then is this it?

Life is just too precious to waste. If you are spending your days working at a job that isn’t deeply fulfilling to you, then you’re spending your days guarding dust. There’s no real value there. Stuff cannot fulfill you. Ultimately it will only distract you from living on purpose.

What does it mean to really live? Deep down, you already have a sense of the direction where this answer lies for you. Ultimately, it’s a choice. You’re totally free to live the kind of life you “1”. But you’ll know you’re really living when you would live pretty much the same way even if you knew you only had 18 months left. If you would make some big changes in your life upon learning that you only had 18 months to live, then why not make those changes now? Someone reading this blog entry probably has less than 18 months to live. Maybe it’s you.

Live for what is real to you. Live for what truly matters to you.

Taking what you love to do and turning it into a source of income, either as an employee or an entrepreneur, seems hard to resist. If you’re going to spend so much time working to make money, why not make that money in the pursuit of your dreams instead of in the protection of dust?

What does your current to do list look like? Is it filled with tasks that aren’t even real to you? Are you typing stuff that doesn’t matter, going to soulless meetings, shuffling papers and filling out forms to appease computers, while sitting in a Dilbert-style cage all day? Why do you continue to choose that life each day? You’re always free to stop at any time. You make the rules.

What percentage of the tasks on your to do list will fulfill you deeply to do them? What kind of to do list would be real to you? What items might it contain? Compose a new piece of music. Write something inspiring and share it with others. Give your spouse a massage. Exercise. Play with your dogs. . Audition for a local play. Start your own business. Tell your boss, “Talk to the hand. I don’t do soulless work anymore.”

Do something that leaves you feeling at the end of the day that you really contributed the best of yourself. Don’t die with your music still in you.Do something that never regret....

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Desire for success

2008-01-11T10:55:00.000-08:00

"In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure."

-Bill Cosby

You could work more hours at your current job. But, if you don't receive overtime pay, that really isn't going to help. Plus, if you are always working, when will you have the time to enjoy life?

You could get a different job,. However, considering we are witnessing the biggest job layoff in our history, this isn't very practical.You could play the lottery.But, we both know that the odds of winning are not very realistic.

What about starting your own Home Based Business? A business that you can work 10-20 hours per week, the that source you can earn money and generate a residual income that will pay you for the rest of your life?

Do you have what it take to success?How those people achieve their gold in life?Why They CAN?

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Under the circumstances

2008-01-11T09:41:00.000-08:00

"Prior came of a good family, much reduced in circumstances"

George Sherburn.

"Do not let circumstances control you. You change your circumstances. "

Jacky Chan

http://myelvin.blogspot.com/

No perfect win

2008-01-11T09:21:00.000-08:00

"Strive for excellence, not perfection."

H. Jackson Brown Jr.

http://myelvin.blogspot.com/

Hits the target

2008-01-11T09:06:00.000-08:00

"Talent hits a target no one else can hit; Genius hits a target no one else can see."

Spot the chance that no one do=Genius

myelvin
Arthur Schopenhauer
http://myelvin.blogspot.com/

lose mean win

2008-01-11T08:36:00.000-08:00

"The quickest way of ending a war is to lose it"

George Orwell (1903-1950), English essayist and novelist
"Some time ,The loses will bring us greater reward."

;-)

Myelvin.=http://myelvin.blogspot.com/

A change produced by influence .

2008-01-04T11:51:00.000-08:00

Why keep yourself in the happy mood is important?especially for the person we care.

"One of the mysteries of human society is how we interact with each other,". "We are an empathic species. When you have emotions, I see it in your face and I feel the same emotions. That means we kind of move as herds. And so when other people are getting excited , it gets me excited too. You can't stay above it. If you are human, you get drawn in. But then when the emotions start changing, you get drawn into that too. And the emotion does seem to be changing. It looks like we're at the beginning of a change in psychology."

So,keep smiling... ;-)

Shiller:"

by:http://myelvin.blogspot.com/

The Unknow

2007-12-27T12:00:00.001-08:00

Never test the depth of the water with both feet.

http://myelvin.blogspot.com/

worth it

2007-12-27T12:00:00.000-08:00

If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.

myelvin.blogspot.com

Be caution and be good in mental fitness

2007-12-27T10:14:00.000-08:00

Remember,you can lose anything, game,money,relationship,etc,you just can't lose your "heart".Protect your heart,it's Everything you need for a happy life.

You lose your "heart",you lose everything.

"Your self-esteem is probably the most important part of your personality"

It precedes and predicts your performance in almost everything you do. It is the energy source or the reactor core of your personality, and how much self-esteem you have determines your levels of vitality, enthusiasm and personal magnetism.

People with healthy mind are more positive, more likable and more effective in every part of their lives.

Everything that you do or say or think will affect your self-esteem. Your job, therefore, is to keep your self-esteem high and positive on a continuing basis.

Probably the best definition of self-esteem is this: the level to which you respect and value yourself as an important, worthwhile person.

People with high self-esteem feel terrific about themselves and their lives. When you feel really good about yourself, you tend to be the very best person you can possibly be.

Your level of self-esteem is really your level of “mental fitness.” It’s a measure of how healthy, hardy, and resilient you are in dealing with the inevitable ups and downs of daily life.

Your self-esteem determines how much peace of mind and inner contentment you experience. It is also closely linked to your health and levels of energy. People with high self-esteem are seldom sick and seem to have an inexhaustible flow of energy and enthusiasm that progressively moves them toward their goals.

How much you like and respect yourself also determines the quality of your relationships with people.

The more you like and enjoy yourself, the more you will like and enjoy others, and the more they will like you. In fact, when your self-esteem is hurt in any way, the very first thing that is affected is the way you get along with people. To perform at your best and to feel terrific about yourself, you should be in a perpetual state of self-esteem building and maintenance.

Just as you take responsibility for your level of physical fitness, you need to take complete responsibility for the content and quality of your mind.

it is possible to like yourself in the abstract, to think of yourself as a valuable and worthwhile person, but this tends to be a very shaky form of self-esteem that is easily knocked down by a negative experience or a temporary disappointment.

The only real way for you to absolutely know that you are a valuable and worthwhile person is for you to make the effort, overcome the obstacles and pay the price to bring these elements into your life.

When you have that foundation, you will experience a form of mental fitness and unshakable optimism that will sustain you through failure and propel you to success.

Level of self esteem mean level of “mental fitness.”

By: Brian Tracy

Don't over react

2007-12-22T11:04:00.000-08:00

" four fifths of all our troubles in this life would disappear if we would just sit down and keep still"

by:Coolidge

Lie to the World

2007-12-22T10:40:00.000-08:00

" Lie to the World mean Lie to yourself"

My life is now too full of confusion
I thought that I'd know myself by now
The assumptions I've lived by are all an illusion
I don't know what to say, or even how.
I don't know what to do: should I
Lie to myself or lie to the world?

Lie to myself, or lie to the world?
Can I even comprehend what I would feel,
If into the open world, my thoughts were hurled
I have no idea if I could deal
But can I live under a delusion?
My life is now too full of confusion

Lie to myself, or lie to the world?
If I'm quiet, I'll feel all alone
But my feelings aren't ready to be unfurled
I Chose to let them unknown
But I have to tell myself, anyhow
I thought that I'd know myself by now.

Lie to myself, or lie to the world?
The world is filled with prejudice
It's not like I'm from the underworld
Have I undergone a sudden metamorphosis?
Maybe I should let people going on with their delusions,
But the assumptions I've lived by are all illusions.

Lie to myself, or lie to the world?
I'm not sure of anything anymore
All I know is my head's in a whirl
Why didn't I realize this before?
It's obvious, why didn't I see it before now?
I don't know what to say, or even how.

I don't know what to say, or even how.
I guess I know myself better now
Still, this life is too full of confusion
The assumptions I've lived by are all an illusion
Lie to myself or lie to the world?
I don't know what to do. Should I?

I am damn wrong.....

You are not always right

2007-12-22T08:57:00.001-08:00

You should know you are not always right,

and what you thought hard to achieve is not always impossible .

written by :Elvin.T

start early

2007-12-19T21:01:00.000-08:00

"It is never too late to start early."

-- Anonymous

Life is hard?

2007-12-19T20:48:00.001-08:00

"Someone once said life is hard. I say, compared to what?

www.Be good Anyway

2007-12-16T11:13:00.000-08:00

We live in the wild world....How do we live well in this dangerous wild wild world.

People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.
人们经常是不讲道理的、没有逻辑的和以自我为中心的
不管怎样，你要原谅他们

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
即使你是友善的，人们可能还是会说你自私和动机不良
不管怎样，你还是要友善

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.
当你功成名就，你会有一些虚假的朋友和一些真实的敌人
不管怎样，你还是要取得成功

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
即使你是诚实的和率直的，人们可能还是会欺骗你
不管怎样，你还是要诚实和率直

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.
你多年来营造的东西有人在一夜之间把它摧毁
不管怎样，你还是要去营造

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
若你找到了平静和幸福，他们可能会嫉妒你
不管怎样，你还是要快乐

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Be good anyway.
你今天做的善事，人们往往明天就会忘记
不管怎样，你还是要做善事

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you have anyway.
即使把你最好的东西给了这个世界也许这些东西永远都不够
不管怎样，把你最好的东西给这个世界

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God;
It is never between you and them anyway.
你看，说到底，它是你和上帝之间的事
而决不是你和他人之间的事

~特立莎 m.Teresa
http://essential-element.blogspot.com/2007/09/ought-to.html

Never let it go

2007-12-11T22:42:00.000-08:00

Never let failure put you down just thank of each failure as one more step that did not work and you closer to the one that works.

True failure only happens when you give up.

Don't just think.....

2007-12-10T08:18:00.000-08:00

Think POSITIVELY !!!

"Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

Abraham Lincol

So,you have a dream but you don't know how to achieve it,you don't know how the thing will goes,you afraid to achieve it.

It also seem very hard to getting started.You try to get it done step by step ,but the step is just to heavy to step on.

You are so worry to change,you just need more power and motivation to move on...How to you get those power to move on?how to you stop worrying and start living a good life?

The answer is :You really doesn't need to worry too much ,you just need to think,positively.

Do you know you should believe that there is some force in the universe that will conspire to help you achieve your dreams when you really get yourself aligned with them and moving committedly in that direction.

Once you get started on the right path for you,you don’t have to go it alone. I don't know precisely why this is so, but it just always seems to work that way.

When you know you're doing what you really feel you should be doing, everything just clicks. Even when setbacks occur, right behind them is a new opportunity that turns the setback seem into a stepping stone.

Inaction grows fear.Action melts it.

When you stand still, you feel fear. When you move,there just isn't any.So Just do it...

MY ELVIN Daily Motivation Inspirational Blog

Changing the World

2007-12-09T21:29:00.000-08:00

"Changing Ourselves Is Changing World"

Myelvin Quotes

Knowing and wining

2007-12-07T22:20:00.000-08:00

"Knowing people is being intelligent,
Knowing self is being enlightened.

Victorious over people is being powerful,

Victorious over self is being invincible.

Tao Te Ching

lives on forever

2007-12-07T22:02:00.000-08:00

Those who do not forget their principles endures,
Those who die but are not forgotten lives on."

Tao Te Ching

Hard to be perfect

2007-12-04T16:05:00.000-08:00

~Unless we live in heaven.
Sometimes,we just have to take the bad with the good...

*Myelvin Quotes

Who's in charge of our Attitudes

2007-12-01T08:29:00.000-08:00

"we are in charge of our Attitudes."

"The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.

Attitude,
to me,
is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes."

home is the foundation

2007-12-01T08:19:00.000-08:00

A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
~
BY:

Stress is common

2007-11-28T13:50:00.000-08:00

~Stress is common because of change and the unknown.Get over it.~

*Myelvin Quotes

Never fear

2007-11-28T13:41:00.000-08:00

~Much of what we fear will never happen, it's in our minds who lie to us ~

Myelvin Quotes

break it...

2007-11-27T22:23:00.000-08:00

~Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.

Myelvin Quotes

don't lose the lesson

2007-11-27T22:19:00.000-08:00

~When you lose, don't lose the lesson ~

Myelvin Quotes

great achievements

2007-11-27T22:16:00.000-08:00

Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

Myelvin Everlastig Quotes

what i know

2007-11-10T10:17:00.000-08:00

‘The more I learn,

the more I realize I don’t know .'

-my elvin-

perfect change

2007-11-10T10:11:00.000-08:00

‘To improve is to change. To be perfect is to change often.’

by:Winston Churchill

What can we changes.

2007-11-10T09:55:00.000-08:00

‘Nothing we can do to change the past,

but everything we do changes the future.’

-my_elvin--

Can't buy Friendship

2007-10-09T09:47:00.000-07:00

"Friendship is something can easily be sold (Trap,cheat,etc )

But money can't buy.

Don't lose it for money.

True frenendship definitely money can't buy .

Quote by:My—Elvin..[http://www.myelvin.co.nr/]

Regret at no time

2007-10-06T21:32:00.000-07:00

Don't waste your time on regret.regret..regret... Nothing can compensate for the loss of time.time..time

by:EElvin

More value

2007-09-16T11:08:00.000-07:00

"It's hard to say how much the gold worth?

without good health ,its just a peice of stone"

by:eelvin
http://redirect.alexa.com/redirect?http://www.myelvin.co.nr/
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When I needed friends

2007-09-16T10:57:00.001-07:00

"The best time to make friends....

...is before you need them."

by:Ethel Barrymore

be optimist

2007-09-16T10:40:00.000-07:00

"Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow"

by:Helen Keller

good and happy

2007-09-16T10:32:00.000-07:00

"The good life, as I conceive it, is a happy life. I don't mean that if you are good you will be happy; I mean that if you are happy you will be good"

by:Bertrand Russell

live in

2007-09-16T10:26:00.000-07:00

We live in deeds, not years: In thoughts not breaths; In feelings, not in figures on a dial;

We should count time by heartthrobs. feels the noblest, acts the best.

by:David Bailey

losing anythig

2007-09-16T10:09:00.000-07:00

"Never blame you are losing anythigThe journey is the reward."

by:Elvin

achievement

2007-09-16T10:03:00.001-07:00

Whatever the mind can conceive and believethe mind can achieve.

by:Dr. Napoleon Hill

Removing dirt from your mind

2007-09-01T09:28:00.000-07:00

"We ought to be more concerned about removing wrong thoughts from the mind ......than about removing tumors and abscesses from the body."

- Epictetus. (50-138)

Your mind, your thoughts.If you can Master them,you can master yourself.Happiness, character, external success – they all begin in the mind.

Negative thinking that always coming into your mind will also causes physical illness and depression.It's awful and at times,feels paralytic - like you have no control over youreelf.

So identify these bad thoughts and feelings,correct it,removed it..

Check out this really good post on removing negative thinking at:
http://www.urbanmonk.net/120/how-to-remove-negative-thoughts-and-tame-your-monkey-mind-part-2/

Say no

2007-08-29T18:07:00.001-07:00

Saying “no ” to others means you are saying “yes” to yourself.

Time is precious. People are spending money to buy time . And yet we are willing to give up our time because we can’t say “no ”. People who always say “yes” need to say “no ” without guilt or fear of punishment. Sometimes we ‘d rather have someone give a loving “no ” than an obligated “yes” .

I think “no ” is the most effective weapon against wasting time. Every day there are more demands on your time. If you always say “yes” , a lot of time will be wasted instead of studying or working effectively.

“No ” can be your new friend, a powerful tool to take back your life. “No ” may even take your further in the business world than “yes”.

“No ” is power and strength. “No ” now seems completely correct. Saying “no ” is not easy. But finally it’s great liberating. As we know, a “no ” project needs to be worked every day becasuse it’s hard to change long –term habit.

We should remember : don’t go to the extremes; don’t find yourself saying “no ” to everything. In return you should learn to hear “no ”.

Why not have a try to say “no ”?

Don't be afraid to say "no "to others,otherwise you will say" sorry "to yourself.
Saying “no ” at your office and see how quickly that pile of work on your desk disappears.

Reason to fail

2007-08-29T18:00:00.001-07:00

allow ourselves to fail .

。。because the only person who never screw up are those who never do anything.

by:)eelvin..

Link Building Links

2007-08-28T19:49:00.000-07:00

摘要部分

隐藏部分

happy experience

2007-08-26T11:06:00.000-07:00

seek experiences rather than stuff,
Focus on doing things rather than having things.

i felt more happy that way.

The greatest talen

2007-08-26T10:14:00.000-07:00

Having something that is hard for people to obtain. .

Never give up ,That special something,is to your advantage that you can offer that very few others can .The hardest ,the greatest.

Quote by:eElvin

living an illusion

2007-08-16T13:55:00.000-07:00

The happiness are only an illusion for those who achieve external trappings of success without any internal fulfillment .

Free

2007-05-02T10:05:00.000-07:00

There isn't "no free lunch" in this world

it only costs a lot to find its .

Freedom

2007-04-29T15:49:00.000-07:00

I would rather be free. - It's more fun that way.

- SLL .

A lesson

2007-04-29T12:11:00.000-07:00

This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.

~dalai

The biggest mistakes

2007-04-20T13:12:00.000-07:00

"1"of The biggest mistakes in our life is to accept the known

and resist the unknown. we should, in fact, do exactly the opposite:

~challenge the known and embrace the unknow~

-my_elvin-

sitiution

2007-04-17T12:01:00.000-07:00

fly away to a new sky..............

ITS A BIG BIG WORLD ...

Blindness

2007-04-15T15:45:00.000-07:00

Those who wish to change the World
According with their desire
Cannot succeed.
The World is shaped by Tao;
It cannot be shaped by Self.
If one tries to shape it, one damages it;
If one tries to possess it, one loses it.
Therefore:
Sometimes things flourish,
And sometimes they do not.
Sometimes life is hard
And sometimes it is easy.
Sometimes people are strong
And sometimes they are weak.
Sometimes you get where you are going
And sometimes you fall by the way.
The sage is not extreme, extravagant, or complacent.

~Tao Te Ching

The Author.

2007-04-13T23:02:00.000-07:00

Name:Elvin

Gender:M

Age:Around 30

Location: (MY)SomeWhere at SEA

Interest:Alone in the dark.....

Education: University of Society

Profession(part time): actor(pretending), director(Ask people doing thing).

Personal Blog:http://myelvin.blogspot.com/

When the breath is gone

2007-04-13T22:06:00.000-07:00

Don't seek fame or fortune,Glory or prosperity.Just pass this life as is,According to circumstances. When the breath is gone,Who is in charge?After the death of the body,There is only an empty name.How long can a phantom likeBody last? -

-Tung-shan

Hack Yourself

2007-04-10T12:15:00.000-07:00

From The Desk of Elvin's Inspirational Motivational Quotations Blog

Stop assigning blame.HACK YOURSELF

Stop assigning blame. This is the first step. Stop assigning blame and leave the past behind you.

You know whose fault it is that your life isn't perfect. Your boss. Your teachers. Your ex-lovers. The ones who hurt you, the ones who abused you, the ones who left you bleeding. Or even yourself. You know whose fault it is — you've been telling yourself your whole life. Knowing whose fault it is that your life sucks is an excellent way to absolve yourself of any responsibility for taking your life into your own hands.

Forget about it. Let it go. The past isn't real. “That was in another country, and besides, the wench is dead.” If we're not talking about something that is real and present and in your life right now, then it doesn't matter. Nothing can be done about it. If nothing can be done about it, then don't spend your energy dwelling on it — you have other things to do.

I may sound cruel, I may sound simplistic, I may sound like I'm saying you should just “get over it,” by suggesting that you should let go of your past. I'm sorry for that. But life won't hold still and wait for you to lick your wounds. The race is still being run. Get up and keep moving. You can't do anything about yesterday.

You can do something about tomorrow. And about the next day. Focus your energies there.

+ + +

“I don't have time to write.” “I can't dance.” “I can't talk to new people.” “I'm not attractive.”

I hear this all the time. I always hear the people around me sabotaging themselves, drawing lines and borders and boxes around themselves.

To which I say, make the time; dance; just talk to people; be attractive!

Yes, again, it's simplistic of me to say that. But it's simplistic of you to so easily say what you cannot do!

We're excellent pattern-marcher's. That's what the human mind does — it's a pattern-matching engine. So we look at ourselves, at our history, at our behaviors, and we draw straight lines between the points — we assume that just because we've done things a certain way in the past, we'll always do them that way in the future. If we've failed before, we'll always fail.

Screw that.

Surprise yourself. No — amaze yourself.

You don't have to keep doing the things you hate. Why go home and beat yourself up for, say, not going over and saying a few words to someone you find really attractive? Can any damage they could do to you by rejecting you possibly be any worse than the damage you're going to do to yourself for missing the chance?

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Find the demon.

Do you know what I'm talking about? It's the little voice in the back of your head that's always whispering, “You can't.” You know the demon. You may think you hate the demon, but you don't. You love it. You let it own you. You do everything it says. Every time there's something you love to have , you consult the demon first, to see if it will say, “You can't have that.”

What you don't realize is that your demon doesn't know anything. It's an idiot. It's nothing but a parrot, repeating back to you anything negative that it's ever heard, anything that makes you hurt, makes you squirm. If a teacher once told you “You'll never accomplish anything,” it was listening; it hoards words like that and repeats them back to you to watch you jump. It doesn't know what it's saying. It doesn't care.

Exorcise yourself.

You can take me literally or not, as suits you. But do, please, the next time you hear that voice in your head, imagine it, visualize it, as something physical that you can get hold of; tear it out of you, feel its fingers weaken and lose their grip on your spine, and grind it to dust, to nothing, under your boot heel on your way out to dance in the streets.

You can. You think you can't; but it's telling you that. You can.

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You don't exist.

You just think you do.

We're nothing but the stories we tell ourselves. We know in our hearts what kind of people we are, what we're capable of, because we've told ourselves what kind of people we are. You're a carefully-rehearsed list of weaknesses and strengths you've told yourself you have.

(Self-confidence, for example, is a particularly nebulous quality you can easily talk yourself out of having.)

You own no allegiance to that self-image if it harms you. If you don't like the story your life has become — tell yourself a better one.

Think about the person you really like to be and do what that person would do. Act the way that person would act.

Amazingly enough, once you start acting like that person, people will start treating you like that person.

And you'll start to believe it. And then it will be true.

Welcome to your new self.

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You are a product of your environment.

Most people realize this — usually, in the form of having something else to blame — but they tend to forget one important fact:

Humans are the masters of changing their environment.

What this means is that if your environment effects you, and you can effect your environment, then obviously, you can effect yourself.

Your environment includes people. Figure out who in your life isn't good for you, whose presence tears you down more than it builds you up, whose nearness is poison to you — and get rid of them. Get them out of your life. I don't care if it's your best friend, your boss, your mother, your lover — if they are harming you, if they are doing nothing but reinforce everything bad you tell yourself about yourself, then your relationship with them needs to radically alter or it needs to end.

Your environment includes goals. Don't set yourself pie-in-the-sky impossible goals and then beat yourself up over not achieving them — set yourself goals that will be good for you, not a source of pain. Attainable goals. Set them and meet them. Don't tell yourself you can't — that's the old story, that story you used to tell yourself about what a poor sad victim you were and how you could never change anything about your life. You can meet your goals. This is the new story.
Trying to clean your house? Good for you — a clean house can really effect your state of mind for the better. But don't say “Today I'm going to clean the entire house from top to bottom,” when you don't have the time and energy to — don't set yourself up for failure; don't feed the demon. Just say, “Today I'm going to wash all the dishes and clean off the kitchen counter.” And do it.

Don't tell yourself, “This month I'm going to write that novel.” Tell yourself, “Today I'm going to write five pages.” And do it. Take your dreams and break them down into small pieces and you'll have them in your hands before you know it.

And you'll find, as you start meeting your goals, that you like it. That it feels good, makes you feel confident and capable. You'll develop a hunger for it.

Your environment includes yourself — your physical presence. Do what you know you need to do — treat yourself better. Sleep, eat right, exercise. This doesn't mean you have to stop staying out late at night now and then, it doesn't mean you can't have a candy bar, it doesn't mean you have to stop sitting around watching television — it just means start doing the things that are good for you as well as the things that are bad for you, every so often. It's not an all-or-nothing proposition; you don't have to devote your life to being a health nut. Just try eating more fruits and vegetables, the occasional vegetarian meal; go for walks in the park on the weekends. You'll feel better and be more alert if you're a little healthier, and once you start feeling a little better, you'll start looking for the things that make you feel better. You'll see.

Your environment includes your appearance. If you're not happy with yourself, if you're angry with the person in the mirror, it can honestly help to literally change who you see when you look in the mirror. Try a different hairstyle, new glasses, new jewelry, new clothes. It doesn't have to be expensive — there's a whole universe full of possible You's waiting to be found in thrift stores, if need be. If you're deciding to become the person you want to be, then decide what that person is going to look like. Dress the part. It's not shallow, it's not about vanity, it's about self-transformation — even the most primitive tribes understand the value of costumes and masks for ritual, for change, for becoming someone else.
You are not an object. You are a system. Like with any system, if you change the inputs — change what goes into it — you'll change what comes out.

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Despite everything I've just said:

Self-examination can be paralysis.

Don't “remember to breathe” — just breathe. It's a Tao thing.

It's the paradox at the center of all this — remember that, “Am I living up to being the person I would like to be?”, is not a question the person you would like to be would ask.(think...)

If I can leave you with just one thought, it's this:

Stop wasting your time fretting over not being happy.

Just be happy.

How Can?

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"They can because they think they can." - Vergil (BC)